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Paleo Fx 2014 Recap, Round-up, and Love Fest

Posted by on Apr 16, 2014 in Blog | 10 comments

Paleo Fx 2014 Recap, Round-up, and Love Fest

 

If the paleo world were in charge of things like time and space, then each new year would begin on April 11. It would be like the fiscal year, but for diets. Because every time I go to paleo fx I measure the last year of my life in the paleo world, and I feel the sphere’s life collapse and re-ignite like an inter-galactic pulsar star.

So another year has come and gone and boy, oh boy was it a hell of a party. I’ve never had a better conference!  There were so many amazing things about paleo fx 2014 I don’t even know where to start. Perhaps I’ll give you a rundown.

Arrival: Tuesday April 8. 

I got to Pfx on Tuesday! My best best best best best friend lives in Austin. He picked me up from the airport. I lost my phone and went into a state of calm if innerly rabid panic as I realized I had lost one my tool not only for navigating the city but also for communicating with all the people I love. Over the course of the night, I make six separate calls and leave several messages and emails for southwest lost and found.

Wednesday, April 9. 

I still get no answer from southwest and am resigning myself to a weekend of lackluster logistics. I tell my mother about the phone problem, and, because the universe likes her about 100 x more than it likes me, someone picks up on her first ring, has my phone, and it’s immediately fedexed on it’s way to me. My amazing publisher Erich Krauss at Victory Belt Inc helps me ship it overnight. Thanks, Erich! Also big thumbs up to me for arriving a day early so not too much is lost. I spend the rest of Wednesday with my friend Evan and walking about town.

I also spend a significant amount of time looking at my laptop, trying to resist looking up salsa dancing venues. I had told myself before going that I would focus my energy on networking and forbid myself from dancing. 

I lasted all of about two hours. Found the “wednesday” salsa on Google (because in every city of reasonable size you can find salsa somewhere in the city on any given night), and took a bus downtown.

It was epic.

I also fell in what I like to call “bachata love” with this man named Kurt – with bachata love being this completely overwhelming clicking in dance style and level. Kurt and I totally kicked ass and he became my salsa hero for the rest of the week as he became my salsa chauffeur and guide.  Very nice.

I finish Wednesday having done not one thing paleo. A nice break before things get nuts.

Thursday April 10.

My phone arrives from fedex at 10am! Hooray! I get it just in time to communicate with Stacy Toth and Matt McCarry – with whom I had already made plans for this – to go to 24 Diner, an epic local organic Austin hub. Bill and Haley Mason Staley were in attendance. Juli Bauer. Josh Weissman. Russ Crandall. Alex Boake. Sean Coonce.  I was so happy. These people mean so much to me.

A man in the restaurant recognizes Juli (of course!) and pays for her meal as a way of saying thanks for her recipes. Pretty cool stuff.

We go to Whole Foods, register @ paleo fx for early bird speakers registration, I get to meet my kickass publicist Susan, with whom I have only ever talked on the phone before, get RICE MILK gelato (seriously!!) at an incredible ice cream place called Dolce Neveand retire for the evening to the house Stacy, Matt, and Danielle have rented. Also, I get heart palpitations and a ton of energy from eating so much chocolate — arguably the best paleo treat I have ever had — in Brittany Angell’s fudge rounds.

I had been telling myself I wouldn’t go salsa, but with all this energy I’ve just gotta. I borrow Evan’s car at 11pm and drive north to the club, and again have a phenomenal time. Hit the hay around 3 or 4am, which is typical for me.

Friday April 11.

Paleo means that I wake up when I want to, so I sleep until around 11, take a bus to the conference, and roll in around 1pm.

I am also wearing leather pants and a sheer top, which stir up way more interest than I had anticipated (just kdding – I’ve over the years gotten used to the paleo world being a bit astounded by some of the things I wear). I meet Luke Robinson of Wolfpack fitness for the first time, we joyously hug and he says “you sure look like a sex object for someone who’s all about feminism.”

Well, kind of. The whole point is to dress like my spirit, and my spirit felt like sassy leather pants.

So there!

Luke is amazing. I saw Kaila Prins again. Love her. Hugged Liz Wolfe, love her, who was in town super quick.

Mark Sisson spots me in the hallway and comes up to me and gives me a hug and tells me that my book is awesome. A woman comes up to us and, cross my heart hope to die, says to Mark “I have a question about women and intermittent fasting.” Mark and I look at each other and burst out laughing. I gently guide the woman to the book booth and hand her a copy of Sexy by Nature.

Go to the paleo fx speakers dinner at the Springdale Farm in Austin. It is a beautiful evening. Dan Pardi and I incite a wicked photo bomb –

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— I get in some epic dancing with Jolly in front of the acoustic two-man band, drink some killer Kombucha, and get a lift to a local dance studio for a night of bachata and kizomba.

(Bachata is the slow, sexy version of salsa, and kizomba is the slow, sexy version of bachata.)

(I know, right!?)

Make it home around 3am, have some coconut butter and apples to re-fuel, and sleep ’til 10.

Saturday April 12. 

This is an awesome day.

I meet so many women who are digging the whole “self-love” thing. I hang out mostly at the Victory Belt (my publisher) table. I hug about a million people. I subsist off of Cappello cookie dough and Exo Cricket Protein Bars and Tanka Bars and Primal Pacs.

I do my book signing, which is totally bomb, even if I haven’t quite figured out how to sign standing up yet, and refuse to sit down.

I also feel pretty charming this whole time. My ego is leaping out, cackling gleefully.

After the conference I head over to Picnik Austin with Stacy, Russ, Alex, Matt, and Sarah Ballantyne, my new paleo favorite and bestie (we both have advanced degrees in the sciences and are super super super nerds who also happen to be rabidly ambitious). We get incredible Sushi at Uchi. The best Pork Belly I’ve ever had. I meet some cool people hanging out at Abel James’s table and get to catch up with him (we went to college together).

I get a ride downtown and dance salsa until 2:30. I meet another man with whom I fall in bachata love. Mmmm bachata love.

Sunday April 13.

The last day is as good as all the others. I sign books. In fact, I sell out! I am the only Victory Belt author to sell out. Pretty cool, eh?!

I do a women’s health panel with Dr. Lo, Dr Ruthie Harper, Diane Sanfilippo, and Dr Deborah Gordon. Dr. Deborah tells women to love themselves. She tells us to eat a lot of food. She tells us to masturbate. She immediately becomes my favorite menopause and women’s health MD and I can’t wait to take her on a date at AHS or Pfx 2014.2.

(BECAUSE THERE IS A PALEO FX 2014.2. IT WILL BE IN DENVER. IN OCTOBER.! I KNOW!!!)

I go to dinner with Bill and Haley, Danielle, Juli, Sean, Suzanne, and everyone’s staff (all my friends have staff… and I will too starting next week!). Barbeque. Finally! I am in Austin and I demand a barbeque.

I meet up with Luke, Kaila, and some others, and I take them salsa dancing, and we sing and dance until almost the sun comes up.

Not a bad way to end an amazing weekend, eh?

After

So now I have a flu and am in recovery. I gained a few pounds from all the chocolate and crickets. But all these things are no problem because I had a great time and have made some great connections and have great plans for the future.

Paleo fx demonstrated this year that we’ve been right all along (and only now is everyone else catching on, haha!) – life is about wellness. It’s about holistic health. It’s not about perfect diets or macronutrients. Almost no talks or speakers were about that. It was all about lifestyle design and doing things better in evolutionary perspective…. something I am behind approximately 6000 percent.
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Primal Pacs!

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First night at Dolce Neve. Bill, Haley, Sean, Suzanne, and Juli.

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Stacy and Matt rule the world. “My girl is stronger than you.”

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Ben Greenfield. Beyond Training (comes out today!) Love this man.

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Cain Credicott, the man behind Paleo Magazine!

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Russ Crandall, The Domestic Man, one of my new dear friends.

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Tony Frederico, another Paleo Magazine mastermind.

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Gluten-extracted beer! Hooah!

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Mickey Trescott, The Autoimmune Paleo Cookbook all star

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Tammy Credicott, Make Ahead Paleo author and Jimmy Moore photobombing

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Trina’s the woman who brings us Primal Life Organics kickass skincare!

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Sushi at Uchi. Sarah Ballantyne front and center.

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Ore, one of my favorite fans with the most amazing energy and positivity.

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Juli is as loving and beautiful as ever.

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Jason Seib, one of the first ever “let’s take care of the brain” paleo-ites and one of the best men I have ever met.

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Luke Robinson, dear friend and owner of Wolfpack Fitness

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Danielle Walker, about halfway pregnant with her second! So good to see her doing well :)

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Steph Gruenke, Rock Your Hormones, another kickass paleo woman and mother-to-be

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Instagrammed photo of me @ Stacy and Matt’s place with some pears. Mmmm.

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The Women’s health panel on Sunday afternoon from an audience member’s phone.

Hoooah!

I’m going to go take a nap!

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I’m at Paleo Fx!! (And it streams LIVE!)

Posted by on Apr 9, 2014 in Blog | 4 comments

I’m at Paleo Fx!! (And it streams LIVE!)

 

Ladies, what up!

The sun is shining, it’s 75 degrees outside, and I am in Austin, Texas for the weekend with some of my favorite people on the planet.

Not only do I get to stay with my best friend of all time who is currently an architecture student at UT, but I also get to party at Abel’s new home, meet Luke Robinson of Wolf Pack Fitness (finally!), hug Stacy Toth, see Kaila Prins for the first time in a year, and, holy crap thank god, see Liz Wolfe for the first time in 18th months. Amy Kubal, George Bryant, Todd Dosenberry, Juli Bauer, Bill and Haley, John Durant, Jason Seib, and Sarah Fragoso are some others I cannot wait to hug again. Chris Masterjohn I have not seen since he came with me to buy my now favorite painting back in August on a trip up the Maine coast.

Paleo fx shall be, methinks, something akin to a hell of a time.

What am I up to?

-I will be signing books at the Victory Belt table on Saturday afternoon from 3:00-3:30. That is my official time. I’ll probably be spending a significant amount of time loitering around there.

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-I will be participating in the Women’s health panel from 3:45-4:40 on Sunday afternoon.

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-When I am not sneaking salmon out of the ‘speakers’ room (yes, there is, and yes, I will be), I will be loitering around the entrance hall. I probably won’t go to very many talks. Much as I love my friends, all of whom are presenting, and think they are very smart, I’d rather be talking with you.

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-I will be dancing cha cha with Chris Masterjohn. He’s a ballroom dancer, did you know? And I do salsa. We find good overlap in cha cha, and it just so happens both of us are pretty talented. This should be fun. We should have booked a stage.  Maybe I’ll get a friend to record a video of us dancing.

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What else is going on?

So much I can barely keep track. Four stages at all times. Three full days of panels and presentations. Some of the smartest and most passionate people I know.

For the schedule, check it out here.

How can you get involved?

Well, if you’re going to be in the area, get a ticket! You can come hang out on the expo floor for only 20 bucks or so a day. That’s like a penny each for all the cool people you’ll meet.

For those of us who cannot make it, however, we can all be there LIVE!

Each talk will LIVE STREAM at this site: Paleo Fx Live Streaming.

AND if you miss the LIVE STREAM, you can purchase individual talks or whole packages in days afterward! You can do so at the same live streaming page, HERE.

So join us in any way you can! It’s an absolute party and an honor to be a part of this beautiful event. I cannot wait to share with you all the photos and stories on the other side!

Hooah!

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Fani Making it Big Time on the Web!

Posted by on Apr 8, 2014 in Blog | 5 comments

Fani Making it Big Time on the Web!

 

Once, I went on a three month trip through the Rockies with a group of 12, and there were two women named Stephanie. (My name is spelled ‘Stefani,’ but pronounced ‘Stephanie,’ to be clear. Maybe I should have told you that years ago. *Sigh.) In order to distinguish, she became “Stephie G” and I became “Fani.” As in, if you pronounced my name like Gwen Stefani and left off the ‘Ste.’

So anyway, long story short: I am Fani.

And when I talk in third person, I am Fani.

Fani is all over the internet these days, and how amazingly fun is that?

This is what is going on:

-Sexy by Nature is again hovering around the #1 spot in the category “whole foods” on Amazon!

This doesn’t mean much, though. The book shot up in the rankings because I just this week got some reviews on some important websites (more about which in a minute). It’s performance has actually been quite low. My heart’s not broken, not quite, I do believe in us!, but I am  definitely working hard to keep our numbers growing!

We cannot spread the good love and food word if we don’t have word of mouth.

So this is where you come in.

Did you buy the book? Could you write a review? Every single review is one more vote for us in the Amazon world, and, literally, every single one counts. If you could put something up on Amazon, Good Reads, Barnes and Noble, I and the rest of this movement will be indebted to you forever.

Literally. Forever.

Do you have a Facebook page? Twitter account? Pinterest? Instagram? Want to share the book with your followers? (Here’s the amazon page!) Do so and tag the PaleoforWomen page and I’ll go ahead and share your stuff back in turn!

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-Last week, the popular hippy yoga largely vegetarian website Mind Body Green published an article I wrote called “6 Reasons the Paleo Diet is Great for Women.” Originally, I called it “6 Reasons the Paleo Diet is the Best Diet for Women,” but I guess they wanted to tone it down. The article’s about soy and grains and and nutrient density and eating when you’re hungry and stopping when you’re full.

There are a ton of really dumb comments. Sorry. That’s rude. But there’s a lot of blood type talk going on. Vegetarianism I consider to be less crazy, and a lot of hate coming from that angle, too. If you want to go defend me and our lifestyle, please, be my guest. If not, please, spare yourself the agony and don’t read the comments.

-Twitter and instagram really, really like my new “Love is the New Skinny” campaign (see here), which I am going to continue, and which I think might be the title for my next book. 

Pin and tag if you like, whoopah!

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(This is me, btws.)

-Sexy by Nature has been reviewed and loved by some really, really kick ass people.

Long, fun reviews:

1) Stacy Toth and blogger Courtney at Paleo Parents.

2) Heather Spergel at HeatherSpergel.com (brought tears to my eyes)

3) Nina at Paleo Owl. (A truly great review, saying this incredible bit about Sexy by Nature having “it all:”

For me personally, Sexy by Nature is like a sassy sister to The Paleo Coach. This Sherlock finally got an adequate Waston. I know that my “obsession” with EPLifeFit, Jason and his book might seem a little repulsive to you by now, but hey, so is running and chronic cardio, and pictures of fitness models with “motivational quotes” to me.

The reason that I have a Top 3 paleo books (The Paleo Coach, It Starts With Food and Primal Connections) and not just one, is that every book has “something” and no book has it all. Sexy By Nature DOES HAVE IT ALL. Sexy By Nature takes all the most important knowledge that the author gained over time, mixed it with some solid science and research, sprinkled it with sweet bits of her personality and added a provocative title on top.)

4) Liz Wolfe’s video review at Real Food Liz.

5) Kaila Prins at In My Skinny Genes

6) Jason Seib @ Everyday Paleo (another one that brought tears to my eyes. It means the world to me to have so much of Jason’s respect.)

Short and to the point reviews:

7) Danielle Walker at Against All Grain

8) Pete’s Paleo

9) Richard Nikoley at Free the Animal

And some really beautiful reviews over on the Amazon page by incredible people like Jimmy Moore, George Bryant, Russ Crandall, Sarah Fragoso, Todd Dosenberry, and Ashley Tudor.

-But, as you have seen, this is just 9 blogger reviews! And 34 Amazon reviews.

We can do so much better. 

So I am! Here we go, ladies, to the mattresses, huzzah, huzzah!

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And there’s more on the way, as always!

Check out and/or review Sexy by Nature (still 27 percent off!) @ Amazon @ here.

And get some exclusive excerpts from the book – not seen anywhere else! (except in the book, duh) – at the Sexy by Nature facebook page!

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My job as a philosopher, the power of acceptance, and how to write a book – my interview with Liz Wolfe of Balanced Bites

Posted by on Apr 8, 2014 in Blog, Podcast | 4 comments

My job as a philosopher, the power of acceptance, and how to write a book – my interview with Liz Wolfe of Balanced Bites

 

By now, you should all know who Liz Wolfe is. She’s the brilliant voice behind Cave Girl Eats (now Real Food Liz), as well as the author of Eat the Yolks.

Liz interviewed me (all on her lonesome! Usually Diane Sanfillippo accompanies) for the Balanced Bites podcast a while back, and it just went up last week.

In the podcast, we talk about:

-my life as a philosopher and what my other “career” is all about

(hint: awesome stuff)

-what I learned about myself and about the world writing Sexy by Nature 

-how writing a book is like having a baby (so I’ve heard)

-and how acceptance can salvage your relationship with your body, as well as just about everything else.

Read about it, listen, and download at the link HERE, or on the image below, at which you can also read a full transcript, which is awesome.

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(button credit: Diane Sanfilippo)

But then you don’t get to hear us laugh, which we do the whole time.

I’ve pulled some quotes, too, to give you a taste for what we sound like:

Stefani Ruper: Very thin. And these days I’m a little bit sturdier. I’m super curvier. And it really is, it feels strange to be in a differently sized body. I feel like I look a little bit more like an adult, and that isn’t to say that people who are thin look like children. {laughs} But I think I kind of did, because it wasn’t my natural shape. And I think I look healthier. And when I put myself in my skin, and when I’m at home in my body and like a partner to my body, that’s what makes me excited to be in it. That’s the very first thing I say in the book. I try to define sexy, and I’m like, sexy is excited to be in the skin you’re in. It’s a feeling. It’s owning your skin and being excited to be there. When you love your body, and you forgive it, and you accept what you need to do to make yourself healthy and you try to get there, then you can look people in the eyes, and be like, “What?”

Liz Wolfe: {laughing}

Stefani Ruper: {laughs} What? This is me, and I’m not apologizing for that fact, because this is what’s best for me. And people love that. Once you start doing that. Once you start just leaping, the final step in every single step by step list I make is always, you’ve just got to go do it. Because that’s going to give you the data you need. It’s going to give you the experience you need to learn how positively people respond to confidence. And it’s not at all; it’s so, so, so little about how you look. Just the tinniest, tinniest little bit. And all about how you present yourself. I don’t care how big you are, I don’t care what’s going on with your skin or your hair. It is entirely about how good and confident you feel.

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Stefani Ruper: B) I said, in one swift and terrifying week, right? I accepted myself. Which is funny, because as true as that may be, that week was awesome, I was like, yeah, I’m doing this!

Liz Wolfe: {laughs}

Stefani Ruper: And then it was another; when was it, that was in early 2012. And it was still, it’s still happening. Right?

Liz Wolfe: Mm-hmm.

Stefani Ruper: It’s still happening, and I have those weeks all the time, and I have good days and bad days, and also I said 10 pounds, and since then it’s probably been more like 20. Because again I’ve been doing this process over and over. And, even at that point, I was working on learning how to eat when I was hungry and stop when I was full. You know, I was working on accepting my body, but I really didn’t get… I want to say, I think I’m good at it now. I really didn’t get good at it for, I don’t know, another couple of years. You know, very close to this date. And I keep getting better. But I want to throw out there, this thing may have a certain starting point, but it doesn’t, so far as I can tell, have a certain ending point.

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Stefani Ruper: And I like both of them a lot. And so the whole time I’m working on this, I’m being torn in different directions, and sometimes I’m working on my philosophy work, and I’m feeling frustrated that I can’t be working on the book. And usually, it went vice-versa. And, the great Ron Swanson comes to mind here.

Liz Wolfe: {laughs}

Stefani Ruper: Because he tells Leslie Knope that “You don’t half-ass two things, you whole-ass one thing.”

Liz Wolfe: Yes! {laughs} I love that quote.

Stefani Ruper: Yeah! And so, for a couple of years there, I was probably three-quarter assing two things.

 

And more!

Whoopah!

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Love is the New Skinny

Posted by on Apr 2, 2014 in Blog | 17 comments

Love is the New Skinny

 

“Strong is the new skinny,” is what everyone says these days.  No longer do you have to look like a runway model! No longer do you have to starve yourself! Wow! Everyone is ecstatic.

Except not everyone is. Who isn’t? I am not. That’s because I know that “strong” means you still have to starve yourself (or at least be restrictive). And build eight pack abs on top of that. “Strong” sets an even higher standard that’s even harder to achieve. It’s unrealistic. It calls for amount of willpower. It demands an egregious amount of your time.

See “skinny”:

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(Don’t argue with me: these women are skinny, okay?)

See “strong”:

(Search results from Googling “strong is the new skinny”):

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  breakingmuscle.com

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Because when people say “strong is the new skinny” what most of them actually mean is “lean with lots of muscle” is the “new skinny.”

Not everyone distorts “strong” to mean “thin and muscled” like these women do. Some actually believe that physical strength — and not the physical, idealized body that comes from hardcore exercise — but actual physical power — is what is truly beautiful.

The inspiring shewolves of Wolf Pack Fitness are one group of incredible, powerful women like this. Many Crossfit women (hellooo Stacy Toth of paleo parents) are some others. Lots of women who do push ups or sling kettlebells in our own movement are others.

But that doesn’t stop the fact that the primary sentiment behind the “strong is the new skinny” movement is that beauty is all about the way that your body looks.

This is not an idea I like very much.

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What is beauty about?

Beauty–true beauty, the kind of beauty that stops your heart and makes the world go ’round–is about love.

It’s about compassion.

It’s about having the courage to affirm yourself and to affirm others on a daily basis.

It’s about daring to say yes to positivity and no to hate.

It’s about owning who you are and never backing down.

It’s about always apologizing when you should and never when you shouldn’t.

It’s about vulnerability.

It’s about the firm grip of your hand, the warmth of your hug, the welcoming light in your eyes, and the open laughter on your lips.

It is, as I have said, about love.

I highly recommend this speech by Lupita Nyong’o. What is beauty? she asks. It’s not the color of your skin, that’s for sure. It’s not your waistline. It’s your compassion. For yourself, your loved ones, and the world.

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If we are going to change our standards of beauty away from “skinny,” we may as well do it right and go all the way. Maybe a part of beauty is about muscles. Maybe some of it is health. Maybe it’s about your hair or your radiant skin. But maybe it’s about so much more than that.

Maybe it’s about a future in which the best, most admired, and most desired people are those with the biggest hearts.

I am more than okay with being attractive. I will continue to try to be so. I cannot help it – nothing will stop the human race from caring about aesthetic pleasure.  But being attractive is not what makes me beautiful. It is not what makes me desirable. It is one small component of who I am–only the surface of an entire, powerful being.

I will not try to be skinny. I will not even try all that hard to be strong.

But I will try to have a big heart, and to love myself, to love my family, and to love the world with the most open and daring compassion I can possibly muster.

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Community, prepare thyselves to be bombarded by a steady stream of “love is the new skinny” memes.

Please pin and share these as widely and freely as you like. Memes are, after all, the best way to share good ideas.

In fact, if you’d like to make your own, and share them on the Paleo for Women Facebook page, tweet them to @paleoforwomen, or tag me on Pinterest or Instagram, I’ll re-post them to make your voice heard.

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And my favorite:

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