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My job as a philosopher, the power of acceptance, and how to write a book – my interview with Liz Wolfe of Balanced Bites

Posted by on Apr 8, 2014 in Blog, Podcast | 5 comments

My job as a philosopher, the power of acceptance, and how to write a book – my interview with Liz Wolfe of Balanced Bites

 

By now, you should all know who Liz Wolfe is. She’s the brilliant voice behind Cave Girl Eats (now Real Food Liz), as well as the author of Eat the Yolks.

Liz interviewed me (all on her lonesome! Usually Diane Sanfillippo accompanies) for the Balanced Bites podcast a while back, and it just went up last week.

In the podcast, we talk about:

-my life as a philosopher and what my other “career” is all about

(hint: awesome stuff)

-what I learned about myself and about the world writing Sexy by Nature 

-how writing a book is like having a baby (so I’ve heard)

-and how acceptance can salvage your relationship with your body, as well as just about everything else.

Read about it, listen, and download at the link HERE, or on the image below, at which you can also read a full transcript, which is awesome.

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(button credit: Diane Sanfilippo)

But then you don’t get to hear us laugh, which we do the whole time.

I’ve pulled some quotes, too, to give you a taste for what we sound like:

Stefani Ruper: Very thin. And these days I’m a little bit sturdier. I’m super curvier. And it really is, it feels strange to be in a differently sized body. I feel like I look a little bit more like an adult, and that isn’t to say that people who are thin look like children. {laughs} But I think I kind of did, because it wasn’t my natural shape. And I think I look healthier. And when I put myself in my skin, and when I’m at home in my body and like a partner to my body, that’s what makes me excited to be in it. That’s the very first thing I say in the book. I try to define sexy, and I’m like, sexy is excited to be in the skin you’re in. It’s a feeling. It’s owning your skin and being excited to be there. When you love your body, and you forgive it, and you accept what you need to do to make yourself healthy and you try to get there, then you can look people in the eyes, and be like, “What?”

Liz Wolfe: {laughing}

Stefani Ruper: {laughs} What? This is me, and I’m not apologizing for that fact, because this is what’s best for me. And people love that. Once you start doing that. Once you start just leaping, the final step in every single step by step list I make is always, you’ve just got to go do it. Because that’s going to give you the data you need. It’s going to give you the experience you need to learn how positively people respond to confidence. And it’s not at all; it’s so, so, so little about how you look. Just the tinniest, tinniest little bit. And all about how you present yourself. I don’t care how big you are, I don’t care what’s going on with your skin or your hair. It is entirely about how good and confident you feel.

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Stefani Ruper: B) I said, in one swift and terrifying week, right? I accepted myself. Which is funny, because as true as that may be, that week was awesome, I was like, yeah, I’m doing this!

Liz Wolfe: {laughs}

Stefani Ruper: And then it was another; when was it, that was in early 2012. And it was still, it’s still happening. Right?

Liz Wolfe: Mm-hmm.

Stefani Ruper: It’s still happening, and I have those weeks all the time, and I have good days and bad days, and also I said 10 pounds, and since then it’s probably been more like 20. Because again I’ve been doing this process over and over. And, even at that point, I was working on learning how to eat when I was hungry and stop when I was full. You know, I was working on accepting my body, but I really didn’t get… I want to say, I think I’m good at it now. I really didn’t get good at it for, I don’t know, another couple of years. You know, very close to this date. And I keep getting better. But I want to throw out there, this thing may have a certain starting point, but it doesn’t, so far as I can tell, have a certain ending point.

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Stefani Ruper: And I like both of them a lot. And so the whole time I’m working on this, I’m being torn in different directions, and sometimes I’m working on my philosophy work, and I’m feeling frustrated that I can’t be working on the book. And usually, it went vice-versa. And, the great Ron Swanson comes to mind here.

Liz Wolfe: {laughs}

Stefani Ruper: Because he tells Leslie Knope that “You don’t half-ass two things, you whole-ass one thing.”

Liz Wolfe: Yes! {laughs} I love that quote.

Stefani Ruper: Yeah! And so, for a couple of years there, I was probably three-quarter assing two things.

 

And more!

Whoopah!

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Lessons on being sexy from my stint as a go-go dancer: “the sexiness” podcast with Abel James

Posted by on Mar 4, 2014 in Blog, Podcast | 0 comments

Lessons on being sexy from my stint as a go-go dancer: “the sexiness” podcast with Abel James

 

Last week I had the enormous pleasure to sit and chat with Abel James of The Fat Burning Man fame. (He is, after all, the #1 Health Podcast in six different countries, including the US.) But Abel and I go much further back than that. We went to the same college, though a few years apart, and share many friends in common. We met and became fast friends at AHS 2012. We both really, really, really love to inspire people, and really, really, really love to question norms… two facts that can make for a hell of a discussion.

In the introduction to the podcast, Abel even calls me a “take-no-prisoners powerhouse” …. which I can’t help but feel enormously flattered by.

So in this podcast we talk about Sexy by Nature – of course - but we focus on the parts Abel found the most uniquely thought provoking:

What do I think it means it be sexy? How do I feel sexy, and how do I get other people to acknowledge it?

Why am I, and why are you, sexy?

What do you learn after being paid to dance on a stage in a bar every weekend for months and years?  (A la the tiny photo of me below?)

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In Abel’s words, in the podcast you learn:

-”A surprising concept from go-go dancing you can use to boost your sex appeal

-Why putting on weight can make you sexier

-A mental trick you can do right now to instantly become more attractive

-And much, much more”

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Check out the audio (AND VIDEO!) versions of the chat at Abel’s site

Or grab the 2/27/14 episode of The Fat Burning Man from iTunes.

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I also just wrote a guest post over at Abel’s blog that exposes the secrets of how models really slim down - 10 Ways To Look Like A Model (That You Should NEVER Try)…. more about which I’ll be posting next week.

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Don’t forget tomorrow’s the last day to enter for a free, pre-release, signed copy of Sexy by Nature by finishing this powerful sentence in the comments at http://paleoforwomen.com/sbn:

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And if you want to read excerpts of Sexy by Nature before it comes out and get exclusive tips on how to be sexy, be sure to join our brand new community on the facebook page!

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What are the biggest red flags for different kinds of hormone imbalance? And more science and hijinks on The Paleo View with Sarah and Stacy

Posted by on Mar 3, 2014 in Blog, Hormones, Podcast | 6 comments

What are the biggest red flags for different kinds of hormone imbalance? And more science and hijinks on The Paleo View with Sarah and Stacy

 

Last week Sarah and Stacy had me as a guest on their podcast The Paleo View. They said that it was a moral imperative for them to have me on — other people were starting to come on the show more often, and they needed to keep me as their most frequent guest. This made our fourth episode together, I think.

And what an episode, too!

Let it stand by way of an introduction that I love and admire these two women beyond words. Sarah’s The Paleo Approach, the ultimate guide to autoimmune disease that was released last month and which has made gigantic waves in the paleo and holistic health scenes, and Stacy’s Beyond Bacon and Eat Like a Dinosaur are just some of the many reasons these women inspire me daily.

They also happen to be sassy, and strong, and smart, and mmmmmm yay!

So in this podcast we focus on hormone balance.

What are the primary kinds of hormone imbalance, and what are the signs and symptoms?

What role do hormones play in other health conditions like autoimmune disease? Is there a connection? (Answer: you bet!)

What’s up with birth control and how can it negatively affect hormone balance both in the short and long term?

And boatloads more.

Check it out and read a full, detailed outline of the show @ here, or download episode 80 from The Paleo View in iTunes.

 

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And don’t forget the opportunity to win a free, pre-release, signed copy of Sexy by Nature, by submitting your completion of the sentence “I love my body because…” in the comments at the blog post http://paleoforwomen.com/sbn.

And check back in a few days as I gear up to give away big. 

Whoopah!

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“Rev Up Your Sex Drive with Stefani Ruper” the Podcast…or, Stefani Talks Hormones, the Clitoris, and the Best Positions for Women (Yes, the Sex Kind)

Posted by on Feb 18, 2014 in Blog, Podcast | 7 comments

“Rev Up Your Sex Drive with Stefani Ruper” the Podcast…or, Stefani Talks Hormones, the Clitoris, and the Best Positions for Women (Yes, the Sex Kind)

 

Last week I had the enormous pleasure of chatting with Caitlin and Mary of the Health Nuts podcast. The topic? Libido. The question? How to enhance it. The answers? Many:

Balance your hormones (often, though not always, easier said than done.) De-stress. Quite chronic exercise. Lift weights. Lose weight if you need to. Gain weight if you need to.

Think about your body better.

Think about sex better.

Love your skin.

Love your vulva.

Demand that your partners love your skin and your vulva, too.

And you can ditch the upside down wheelbarrow, but never let a good old fashion cowgirl or reverse missionary.

Listen for the smart and uproarious time @ The Health Nuts site  or get it straight on iTunes.

(Warning: to be clear, I say the words clitoris and vagina several times and do in fact talk sexual positions, so this podcast is not for the sexually prim or skittish. But we don’t get explicit in that way until the final 20 minutes or so, so you can listen about hormone balance for the first 45 minutes of the podcast if you like.)

 

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New roundtable podcast on disordered eating is up! George Bryant, Stacy Toth, Sarah the Paleo Mom, Tara of Primal Girl, and more.

Posted by on Apr 30, 2013 in Blog, Disordered Eating, Podcast, Self-love-spiration | 1 comment

New roundtable podcast on disordered eating is up!  George Bryant, Stacy Toth, Sarah the Paleo Mom, Tara of Primal Girl, and more.

I recently had the enormous delight and honor to hang out and chat with George, Stacy, Sarah, and Tara about our personal experiences and opinions on body image – on The Paleo View for the third time in four months.  Awesome!  The podcast has now been posted, and there are also extensive show notes at the link if you don’t have the time to listen and just want to get the gist of it.  These are really powerful people with big time ideas, and I love them all so much, they’re such wonderful friends and real people who are inspiring for both of those facts in equal measure.

George and Stacy on bulimia, me on perfectionism, how people treat you differently when you change your appearance — literally – do you become more visible?  an object? – what happens when your fourth grade teacher tells you you’re fat, and how the shape of your self love changes as your weight loss / health efforts move forward.

Grab the podcast here or on the image below!

 

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Interview on the Paleo View Podcast: What is a Normal Menstrual Cycle?

Posted by on Jan 30, 2013 in Blog, Podcast | 0 comments

Interview on the Paleo View Podcast: What is a Normal Menstrual Cycle?

This week I had the most delightful opportunity to speak again with Stacy of Paleo Parents and Sarah the Paleo Mom on their podcast, The Paleo View.

In this episode we disucss Diva and Lunette cups, the toxicity of tampons, how to reduce cramping and PMS, why weight loss before pregnancy is bad for your baby, and my opinion on what a “normal” menstrual cycle is.

If you have questions on fertility, hormone balance, weight loss, and love sassy women voices, it’s one of my favorite podcasts yet.

 

 

 

 

 

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Interview and in-depth discussion of my views on PCOS on Sean Croxton’s Underground Wellness

Posted by on Nov 28, 2012 in Blog, Podcast | 2 comments

Interview and in-depth discussion of my views on PCOS on Sean Croxton’s Underground Wellness

Sean and I took the time a couple of weeks ago to sit down and really dig into the nitty gritty details of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome.  It was a delightful interview and I encourage anyone interested in female hormones to take a listen.

In it we discuss the primary causes of PCOS and why it causes infertility, the different impacts of PCOS on overweight and underweight women, what I believe the different types of PCOS are, why women suffer health problems such as depression, anxiety, acne, and gut issues at twice the rate of men, and what hormones are necessary for a raging female libido.

Grab it at iTunes here!

 

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