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"I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose."

Margaret Cho

PHEW. Taking a breather, gearing up, and holy crap, what’s next is awesome.

Posted by on May 27, 2014 in Blog | 5 comments

PHEW. Taking a breather, gearing up, and holy crap, what’s next is awesome.


Hey ladies!

Happy Tuesday. I hope you’ve had lovely Memorial day weekends. I watched a lot of TV. Like – a LOT. Like – 25 hours worth. This weekend’s indulgence of choice was Grimm. All those cops and fairy tale creatures…. they’re all just so. damn. good looking.

Often people tell me I must have a crazy, busy life. I always respond – “well. I do watch a F-ton of TV.”

Sometimes, anyway.

I felt like I really needed that downtime (and will still need more). It came on the heels of kicking off my consulting practice, which came on the heels of the Leaky Gut Webinar, which came on the heels of the Much More than a Mom Mother’s day summit, which came on the heels of the Primal Life Kit Ebook Bundle, which came on the heels of Paleo Fx 2014, which came on the heels of… what? Oh, wait, that’s right, a national book release that I had been promoting full time for three months.

So there’s some TV in my life right now.

I will also probably be a bit quiet on the blog for a little while.

This is not because I need a break from you, darling audience I love to pieces. It’s actually because I am doing a lot of work, but most of it behind the scenes.

(And still the TV.)

So what am I up to?

In my personal life, I am:

-learning how to sleep properly for the first time years (last Sunday I got eight hours of sleep for the first time in 470 days)  FOUR HUNDRED AND SEVENTY. Not coincidentally, last Monday I felt better than I have in four hundred and seventy days. I think I’ll be writing a blog post about this soonish.

-finding a dance partner and becoming a professional Zouk dancer

-working on my French

-preparing to go to France to work on my French and Zouk

These things make me very, very happy.

In my professional life, I am:

-working on building a staff. It’s about damn time. I need help, and desperately. (Hey, volunteers are great, too! ;) ) I’ve always been so terrified of spending money, and also of relying on other people – I’ve never had any help on any of my projects, ever - so it’s time for me to get over those fears. Hopefully in the next few weeks / months another fabulous woman or two will be jumping on board the cool ship.

-writing a new ebook. It’s probably going to be “Six steps to self love” but might also be “Love is the new skinny.” I love the concept of “Love is the new skinny” too much to let it go… so I’m fitting it in on the docket somewhere. I might actually release it on Amazon.

-building time into my schedule to take on consulting clients.

-rebuilding and re-branding EVERYTHING. is actually changing. We’re getting a new face and a new website and I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOO000000!!11!!!!11!!!COS0!!! excited. Now THIS it’s about damn time for. I’m not going to give it all away quite yet, but we’re getting bigger and better and closer to helping me work the job and write the books of my dreams.

-writing the next hardcover book. Again, without giving too much away (really this is for my own sake, since I bet the project will change significantly in the coming months), I won’t say too much. But I will say this: it’s about the philosophy of human nature. Mmmmmmm hmmmm. Talk about melding all the things I love into one book! Mmmmmmhmmmm.

The 'holy crap!' face.

The ‘holy crap the future is awesome!’ face.


So I’ll be a bit touch and go for the next few weeks/months probably, but all with really kickass stuff coming out in the meantime and at the end.

AND I’ll still be around because, well. I can’t seem to stay away.

And someone’s got to drag me away from all those damn handsome strangers on HBO.




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Announcing: Consultations with Stefani FINALLY open for business!

Posted by on May 20, 2014 in Blog | 3 comments

Announcing: Consultations with Stefani FINALLY open for business!


Hey there, family!

Those of you who have been around for a while know that I’ve been promising to open my doors again for years now.

And finally – finally! – I have cleared enough off of my to-do list to take on a limited number of clients. My heart is singing with gratitude and joy. It’s amazing to finally have the opportunity to share my gifts with you in this way.

The things I specialize in and can help you overcome is extensive.  Moreover, the female-specific angle is – honestly – not one you’re going to find many other places in the paleo web.

If at all.

My list of specialties include the physical, such as:

acne, headaches, weight loss, menstrual irregularities, infertility, PCOS, PMS, birth control woes, menopause, low libido, osteoporosis, and hypothyroidism

And also the mental, such as:

body image issues, low self-esteem, disordered eating behavior, binge eating, restrictive eating, addiction to exercise, food addiction, control issues, poor self-love, and perfectionism.

Because I’ve been there, and I’ve lived many of these things. I’ve swum in the seas of research, I’ve worked with hundreds of women, and I’ve written books. Therefore I have come out on equipped with all the knowledge and tools to help you on your journey I have always dreamed of, and then some.

Leap into wellness!

Leap into wellness!

To help you as best I can, I’ve come up with a whole slew of different services to offer – spanning from the super affordable 30 minute quickie session to the more detailed and connected hour and email access package… I even offer months long packages if you are on a journey and looking to heal on an on-going basis.

So check out more details on what I have to offer at the consultations page at You can book me and sign up for the service at the bottom of the page – and we can be set up and chatting within the week. Because it’s been so long in coming, I am already close to needing to develop a waitlist – so if you have an urgent need it may be wise to book as soon as you can. And regardless know simply that I am here for you however you need, and am excited about the possibility of being on your healing journey together.

With love,





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Do you have healthy poop? Leaky gut? It’s not too late to find out! Yet!

Posted by on May 15, 2014 in Blog | 5 comments

Do you have healthy poop? Leaky gut? It’s not too late to find out! Yet!


Last week I clued you in to some pretty cool stuff emerging in the paleosphere. (This is a RECAP and “it’s not too late to take advantage!” post.)  It was about your gut. It was about inflammation. And it was, most of all, about your poop.

I told all you about Leaky Gut. What’s Leaky Gut, again?

Leaky gut allows the stuff you’d otherwise excrete as feces – TOXIC food particles, environmental chemicals, and bacterial waste to leak through your digestive tract and into your body. Once inside, these foreign particles travel to different areas of your body and trigger an immune response, promoting inflammation and jumpstarting the development of chronic disease.

Instead of keeping the bad stuff out, the delicate lining of your intestine lets all the bad stuff in, and your body breaks down from the inside out.

You can even have leaky gut and not know it…. this happens all the time. I don’t even know if I have it. I think I might! It’s that silent and menacing a condition.

This is what leaky gut looks like. & it's the most under-diagnosed condition in the country.
So brain issues. Low energy. Uncomfortable digestion. Any kind of skin problem. Insulin dysregulation. Weight gain. Autoimmune diseases. Hormone imbalance. Infertility. Stress! Anxiety! Insomnia! (Big issues for me)

Yikes, and yikes, and yikes, indeed.

So I shared with you a bunch of cool diagnostic and healing stuff! Here’s the recap:

1) A quiz to help you see if you have leaky gut and how severe it might be.

2) An awesome infographic demonstrating the different kinds of poop. Do you have the healthy kind of poop? Check out the cute-as-hell poop diagrams to find out! @ here.

THEN,3)  Steve put on, IMHO, the most informative webinar the paleo world has seen to date.

Did you go?

Did you miss out!?

What did we talk about?

  • How leaky gut causes local and systemic inflammation, which can attack your body’s “weak” links” and speeds up disease
  • Why food allergies are directly related to leaky gut.
  • How gas, bloating and other digestive problems can be caused by infections in the gut.
  • The fastest way to get rid of gut infections.
  • 3 Supplements to try right away if you want to feel better (Yes, probiotics is one of them!)
  • What NOT to eat and Exactly what to eat for leaky gut
  • How GMO’s, Concussions (I know, right?!) and NSAID’s trigger leaky gut
  •  THEN Steve and Jordan did a Q & A for a whole hour. There, we talked about Candida, Adrenal fatigue, SIBO, Gastritis, Type 1 Diabetes, Reversing Autoimmunity and Food Allergies…. all of which you get to hear about if you watch the replay (and again, all for free!).

So if its not obvious already, I was there and it was AWESOME. Not only did it help me with my own health, but also with my work with my consulting clients… maybe you can watch it and not need me anymore. :)

So anyway. This webinar had dozens of thousands of attendees…

And now you can watch it for FREE, on YOUR OWN TIME (finally! a webinar you can watch at your leisure!)

But only until Friday (tomorrow!) at midnight is it free… so grab your pass AFAP… watch it with your dog, over dinner, with a bowl of coconut ice cream…

At least that’s how I did it.

Oh, also, 4) I’m giving you a free copy of one of my ebooks if you watch the replay of the seminar. Simply forward your registration and your favorite part of the seminar to and you’ll receive a FREE COPY of Birth Control Unlocked…. all because I really care about your gut and want to help you heal.

So the webinar is replaying for free. You can take the quiz. Look at the poop chart. There’s also a list of the 19 leaky gut triggers Steve sends out for download for free. All amazing stuff to help you figure out if you’ve got leaky gut and what you as a unique individual need to do for your own healing.

Because we are all unique snowflakes, and we all have our own unique healing to do.

Steve’s got lots of amazing resources available on leaky gut…the kind of stuff even I learn from… These are not those gimmicky web draw-you-in things. Just. a. seminar. chart. quiz. guide. set of resources.  (@ Because leaky gut is a nasty monster thing and we all deserve to be free to be healthy and happy.

Or something. :)

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Do you have a healthy gut?

Posted by on May 5, 2014 in Blog | 3 comments

Do you have a healthy gut?


I spent all last week promoting – and you spent all last week reading about (thank you) – an awesome product. I like to share things that are cool. Nonetheless I was looking forward to a break…. a weekend full of dancing and White Collar marathons (my new TV addiction … it’s almost nothing but devastatingly handsome men in suits) … and then I finally checked out this set of leaky gut materials all the paleo professionals have been talking about.

I got sucked in.

And barricaded myself in my room at 9pm on a Saturday night. I promised myself I could go dancing if I sat down and investigated thoroughly.

[It is now Sunday afternoon. And five episodes of White Collar later.... So much for diligence...]

This is what leaky gut looks like. & it's the most under-diagnosed condition in the country.

This is what leaky gut looks like. & it’s the most under-diagnosed condition in the country.


As for leaky gut… what is it?

Leaky gut allows the stuff you’d otherwise excrete as feces – TOXIC food particles, environmental chemicals, and bacterial waste to leak through your digestive tract and into your body. Once inside, these foreign particles travel to different areas of your body and trigger an immune response, promoting inflammation and jumpstarting the development of chronic disease.

Instead of keeping the bad stuff out, the delicate lining of your intestine lets all the bad stuff in, and your body breaks down from the inside out.

Brain issues. Low energy. Uncomfortable digestion. Any kind of skin problem. Insulin dysregulation. Weight gain. Autoimmune diseases.

Yikes, and yikes, and yikes, indeed.

I also happen to know from years of clinical experience that gut issues are often the foundation of hormone issues – like PCOS – and male pattern symptoms like acne and facial hair. Why? Because an unhealthy gut causes inflammation, which causes cortisol and insulin levels to rise, which causes testosterone production in the ovaries, which throws a wrench in the menstrual cycle, which derails fertility and causes eight million kinds of symptoms and imbalance.

The gut is a real important issue for women’s health… not something I’ve discussed as much on this site as I should’ve. By miles.

So… what then? Where do I, you, we, start?

A good, solid paleo diet helps with leaky gut.

“Paleo” is about 80 percent of the answer.

Eliminating the gut irritants grains, dairy, and legumes – which is what most “paleo people” do – is a big step towards healing a damaged gut and eliminating all the symptoms that come from it. This is one of the biggest reasons I and so many other health professionals eat paleo. We want our guts to be healthy. We know that gut health is the most important factor for whole body health.


So eat paleo. Eliminate potential gut irritants. 100%. No cheating.

At least for several months if your symptoms are bad. Several weeks if not.  If you’ve got any symptoms related to mental health, gut health, skin health, or hormone health — leaky gut could be your culprit. Clean up your diet with paleo adherence and see if the problems get better.

You might even have leaky gut and not even know it. Leaky gut can silently inflame your body at a slow, steady stream for years and years. I don’t want to scare you. That’s just a fact. It happens to people on a regular basis. It’s a serious problem worth – at minimum – a clean paleo diet for a month. This gives your body a chance to heal.

What else?

Chances are good you’ll still need (or at least benefit from) more tweaking.

The GAPS diet, the specific carbohydrate diet, Sarah Ballantyne’s autoimmune protocol… these are three different diet plans – very specific and highly well-attested to around the globe – designed to heal a damaged gut. Vitamin A may be crucial for some people. Fermented foods or probiotic supplementation. Avoiding fructose. Increasing your intake of leafy greens. Reducing insoluble fiber. Increasing soluble fiber. It’s all very tricky because every person has a different gut environment. Different symptoms, both obvious and hidden ones.

With more symptoms, it may require.. as I said. tweaking. More on which in a moment.

Do I have it?

I don’t know. I’ve always wondered. I really have no idea. Sometimes my digestion isn’t awesome. I have some skin issues but I know my hormones are the biggest players in that. I’ve dealt with significant stress in my life. I sleep very poorly. Do I have it? I don’t know. (I’m not a leaky gut expert… though I’m trying to learn through Steve.)

So I took a quiz! Steve made a quiz! Like so:


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Now you know I’m a tab hoarder.

I’m willing to bet my high risk is because I’m a stress monster.

But who knows. Maybe it’s the three pounds of blueberries I ate yesterday afternoon.

The kind of tweaking I’d need? I don’t know yet. Sarah tells me I might need more vitamin A.

I have a feeling I need to sleep more. But I’m addicted to dancing and we all have our weaknesses.

I have yet to watch my free videos and read the documents from Steve’s quiz.

As for you? You can take it now, too!

If you want, you can take it @ here.  Steve’s got lots of amazing resources available for investigating and overcoming leaky gut…the kind of stuff that teaches you what kind of tweaking you might need… this is just one of them. It’s not one of those gimmicky web draw-you-in things. Just. a. quiz. (@ Because leaky gut is a nasty monster thing and we all deserve to be free to be healthy and happy.

Or something. :)


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Asking you for help (!)

Posted by on May 1, 2014 in Blog | 1 comment

Asking you for help (!)


Hey ladies hey ladies HEY!

Happy Thursday!

I have some excellent and some embarrassing news to share with you.

My baby – Sexy by Nature – has done well and gotten some wonderful reviews. Huzzah!!!

That’s the excellent part!

The embarrassing part is also inspiring and kind of exciting. It’s that these few reviews it has floating around the internet are not nearly enough for the kind of revolution we’d ideally like to have. Our community needs (and I need) your help.

Reviews of books on Amazon are incredibly important for turning Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and other readers on to certain books. It is, in fact, the most important thing for disseminating a message like this out into the wider world. It makes my skin itch to ask anyone to help me (regarding anything, come to think of it … :) ), but this is where the power of community pays off big. This is for me, but it’s not just for me.

It’s for helping women find love and nature and love and confidence and love and power and did I say love?

So if you’ve got a copy of Sexy by Nature, head over to Amazon and give it a review! You don’t have to give me five stars (but give me five stars, okay?). Just a rating and a sentence or two. You don’t even need to have bought the book on Amazon. Or even to have finished reading it. Or, hell, started. Just do this easy easy easy easy easy thing:

1) Go to the Amazon page: here.

2) Scroll down to the bottom, beneath all the reviews.

3) Click the button “Write a customer review” in the bottom left hand corner.

4) Sign in if you have not already

5) Write!

6) Pat yourself on the back and give yourself a hug from me, because every single review counts. Hell, tell your friends. Your grandmother. Your pets. I’m sure they’d all like to write a review. And if they don’t, a few minutes of their time would still help so much.

And I will be forever grateful.

For me, for us, for love, and all of those things. I could not ever be more grateful to you, or excited to meet your acquaintance and sending love to you over the airwaves, for helping us move mountains these few boulders at a time.

Thank you, ladies. This means the world to me.


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Russ Crandall, the Revolutionary Name (and Nerd-tastic Heartthrob Hero) in Paleo Cooking

Posted by on Apr 30, 2014 in Blog | 3 comments

Russ Crandall, the Revolutionary Name (and Nerd-tastic Heartthrob Hero) in Paleo Cooking


I’ve been making the rounds on cookbooks lately. Michelle. Danielle. Josh. Chowstalker. If you know me well at all, you also know this is damn funny, because I’ll never spend more time than I absolutely have to in the kitchen. It’s not that I don’t like to cook or to enjoy a good meal — it’s just that I can’t help but consider it a monumental waste of time.

Which I guess could be interpreted as an insult to many of my dear friends, but I promise you, I consider your jobs and your interests worthwhile. Just not for me, because my focus happens to be elsewhere.

Anyway. Lots of cookbooks and cook guides and cook friends in my life. I love this fact, I really, really, really do.

So without further ado I’d like to take you along for this cookbook ride. Today’s stop, another friend/chef, is a brand new one (to me) of whom I became instantly and rabidly fond of this year at paleo fx: Russ Crandall.

russ crandall

I know. Right?!

Russ (of has a newly released cookbook out. It’s one of my all time favorites (I know, I know, they can’t all be favorites, but humor me, I mean it, okay?). It’s called The Ancestral Tableand it’s full of stunning photography and creative recipes and brilliant tips. No surprises here — of course we expected Russ’s insights to be brilliant — but there are a few things about this book and this man that make them special.

First, the book:

ancestral table

Elegant, traditional, hearty, lively, comforting. Mmmm.

1) The foreword is by Paul Jaminet. This is an official (the official?) “perfect health diet” cookbook — which means it includes carbohydrates (gasp!), highly nutrient dense foods, and traditional foods — ancestral ones — from around the globe.


2) The quality is… obvious. Stellar.

3) The mission is unique and spectacular. Russ’s book is… refined, in some ways.  Which is a part of why I have so much respect for Russ. I wouldn’t have known about the mission of the book unless I had met Russ. But what I learned, flopped over the arm of a sofa after a heavy day of networking and hugging fans, and Russ patiently  humoring my drowsy inquisition, was this:

Russ believes that one of the most important things we can do for the paleo movement is to up our game in the highest eschelons of the foodie and fine cuisine world.

The reason we don’t have high quality and healthy ingredients like arrowroot flour, coconut flour, coconut aminos, and the like robustly filling out supermarket shelves is that there is no demand for them. There is no demand for them because no one knows about them or how to use them. No one knows about them for a lot of reasons, but one is that no one is teaching us how to use ‘em from the top down. Like philosophy, art, painting, and literature, the culinary world is heavily influenced by trickle-down preferences from those of elite status.

Get ancestral and traditional cooking methods to be taken more seriously by culinary institutions and elite chefs, and magnitudes more chefs will know how to manipulate and delight in them.

What ingredients we know how to use, we use, and then we use ‘em better and better.

So one of Russ’s many culinary missions is to convince culinary leaders and institutions that ancestral cooking makes top notch dishes.

The Ancestral Table undertakes and succeeds at this.

This achievement does not mean there’s any kind of far-fetched, silly hobnobbing (I’m actually not sure what this word means, but I mean “fancy-pants BS”) in Russ’s book. You’ll recognize all the ingredients and be able to cook the recipes easy peasy.

You’ll just also happen to be participating in a culinary revolution. This is the brilliance of Russ’s work. He makes ancestral cooking both practically easy and practically transcendent.

This aspect of his work is particularly inspiring.

And then there is the man himself.

russ crandall 2

No such things as too many books!

I don’t want to out him too much publicly, in case he is a more private man than I am aware of, but here are some tidbits to entice you into falling in love with him, like just about everyone I’ve ever met already has:

1) Russ has a beautiful family and a beautiful baby boy who I could look at photos of for ages.

2) Russ recognized the game “Buster Buddies” — an old Play Station 1 eccentricity that only the coolest of the coolest of gamers remember — when I mentioned it at a dinner party.

3) Russ is a highly ranked Navy office of sorts.

4) Actually he’s a linguist in the Navy — one of the top ranked — who teaches and speaks fluent Russian.

5) He also happens to speak Indonesian.

6) And to work more than 40+ hours a week in addition to writing The Domestic Man blog.

7) Russ is the one and only man behind the food blog The Domestic Man, meaning he and I are some of the few full-time advocates without staff.

8) Russ is obviously skilled at time management.

9) Russ has big dreams. I’m not giving it away, but Russ has some field trips lined up that are going to help bridge the gap between food production on farms and in factories and food production in the kitchen. He is also planning to work on hospital food reform–you know, along with blogging and writing and teaching Russian to the Navy full time — which is just so damn cool.

9) He hates onions, and in fact used to write under the handle Onionsaregross. 

10) Seriously.


Soooooooooooo. It’s a good book and a good blog and Russ jumped way up not only on my RSS feed but also on my list of people to admire and aspire to be like.

The blog, Domestic Man, can be found here.

The book, Ancestral Table, here.

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